Here few updates on my life. I got a job at a local nonprofit agency in September 2014 right after Angel died. We closed on our house that month too. It was a little bit difficult to accept the fact that all these good things were happening to me when I knew that my best friend was not alive to see and experience some of these things in my life and in her own life.
I started to get new certifications for my career. I am now certified in trauma-focused CBT and then being trained in parent-child interaction therapy. It’s been really fun to learn so many new things about how to help families. I’ve also maintained my sanity by going to supervision every week and discovering new things that I need to work on Within Myself. I’ve decided to rise to the challenge of becoming a trainer a supervisor and a leader. Our executive director has really helped me Foster these skills and characteristics in myself. It’s been hard work doing all the self-reflection that requires, but I feel like it will be worth it.
There’s been some things at work that have been upsetting me recently and it’s been difficult for me to face them head-on. I’ve done it though. This was difficult for me because I am super avoidant. Avoidance has been a coping mechanism for me ever since I can remember. It’s helpful because it helps me to avoid any difficult emotions and evade conflict. It has also been detrimental to me in many ways because any time that I feel like I am going through something that will stretch me or that will be hard I will avoid it. Beginning to break this pattern has been more than challenging. I’ve started to apply some of the things that I’ve told my clients about avoidance in my own life. For example, I can now talk to Fernie about bills and deep dark secrets. I can now also address my clients avoidance because I have addressed my own.
My coworkers are the bomb. I need a couple of new friends at work and one of them is going to be a bridesmaid in my wedding. Yes, I am going to get married! The wedding is set for December 31st 2016. So I have more or less 5 months to prepare. I’m marrying a man that is confident, caring, loving, ambitious, and very sexy.
He proposed to me on New Year’s Day right after midnight 2016 which is why we chose our wedding date to be New Year’s Eve.
I recently started reading nonfiction books and begin with Harry Potter. For some reason I was taught not to read this book I am unsure about the reason. I thoroughly enjoy it and I think that JK Rowling is a great writer.
I decided to also try and present at a conference at UCLA on parent-child interaction therapy and the effects of timeout on traumatized children. That’ll be in September.
Other than that I can’t think of anything else that I need to update on. Ta-ta for now!